He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness by his wounds you have been healed. For you were straying like sheep, but have now returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls (1 Peter 2:24-25).
When people you trust sin against you, the pain you experience may continue long after the transgression. Sin can shatter your heart into separate pieces where the darkness of fear and bitterness reside. Do not see yourself through the eyes of anyone who rejected or mistreated you. See yourself through the eyes of Christ who loves you and gave Himself for you.
Jesus never taught you to reject yourself though men rejected and despised Him. The wounds He suffered empower healing to your wounds today. The cross cancels the power of sin over you and gives you a new life. Jesus not only forgives your sin but also takes it away. As you submit to Him, Christ makes you holy and whole.
Having love and genuine compassion for yourself opens the door for Jesus to heal your brokenness. You can love yourself without being self-centered. You can love the sinner in you and yet hate your sin. Look at your sin; be disgusted over it, for it separates you from your Creator and divides your heart. Forgive the abusers in your life, those that are in the past and that, which is within you. Turn to God and repent and He will deliver you. Jesus wants to shepherd your soul. Abide in the healing love of Christ. He died for you so that you could live to righteousness. A godly life is a healed life.